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Check Your Vision

Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others.
— Jonathan Swift

This is the season for resolutions, goals setting, resetting our focus and planning for the rest of the year. I may be but a little late in writing this blog post but better late than never. How has the month of January been for you? Did it start off on a positive note with you being full of energy, hope and optimism? Or has it been a challenging start given the issues you were facing last year have also followed you into the new year? On the personal front, it has been a bit of both for me. I am definitely seeing growth in my coaching business and my legal consulting work is also steady at the moment. Health wise, I could be doing better and my elbow injury still acts up every now and again if I am not careful with it. It’s also been a challenging time for my teenage son with his college applications and a rushed hospital visit to have a procedure done on his feet to cure an infection. January has been extremely busy for me on all fronts. I know that I cannot keep up this pace for the entire year!

The busyness served as a good reminder to me to find time to settle down and rethink my vision for this year. What do I want to see happen by the end of this year? What would make the year fulfilling and successful for me when I arrive at 31 December 2022?

What about you?

Are you also being pushed along by the obligations and pressures of life? Are you allowing other less important things to get in the way of accomplishing what you really want? Perhaps, it’s time to do a VISION check. Just as it is important to get our eyes checked regularly to ensure that we will be able to see clearly, it is equally important to do a VISION check to be certain that we are living our lives aligned with our purpose and goals.

  •  VIVID PICTURE

    Have you created a vivid picture in your imagination as to what your completed goal will look, feel, and sound? Have you added sensory details, paying particular attention to what emotions you will experience when you have achieved your goal? Many people omit this step or they make a half-hearted attempt at it. As a result, their goal is not real to them. We get easily distracted by day-to-day events. This step to have a vivid picture of your goal takes time and thought which is why many people don’t do it. However, if you don’t have a clear picture in your mind as to what you are trying to accomplish, how will you ever attain it? Developing a clear, vivid picture is critical if you want to achieve your goal.

  •  INSPIRATION

    Do you feel inspired by your goal? Does thinking about it make you smile? If not, then go back to your vivid picture and change it until you are excited about it. Goals take effort. They often require that we change and do things that may be a stretch for us. If the goal isn’t something you really want in the first place, then why bother trying to achieve it? Connect with why you were inspired to set this goal in the first place.

    When you come up with a goal, don’t limit yourself by what you think you can accomplish. Decide what you truly want. Many people have achieved enormous successes in their lives because they had big goals. When you are inspired enough by your dream, you will find a way to make it a reality.

  •  SUSTAINED BELIEF

    Do you have a sustained belief you will achieve your goal? If you don’t expect to accomplish your goal, then you probably won’t. Sometimes it takes extraordinary courage to believe, in the face of all evidence to the contrary, that we will be successful. Things go wrong. Problems come up. It is easy to get discouraged. That is the time when you most need to have sustained belief. You can get through the difficult times if you believe you can. People rise to the level of their own beliefs. When you believe you will be successful, then you will eventually achieve what you set out to do.

  • IDENTIFY

    Do you identify with your goal now even though you have not yet achieved it? We must begin to identify with the person we want to become. Once or twice each day, play the picture of your completed goal in your mind. Live your goal in your imagination and experience all of the wonderful emotions that go with it. As you continue to do this, you will find that your thoughts and behaviours become more aligned with the person you will be when you achieve your goal.

  •  OBSERVANT

    Are you observant as to what actions that are taking you closer to your goal and those that are moving you further away? When we create an action plan for our goal, some of the ideas included in it will work and others won’t. After you take a specific action, observe the result. If it is positive, then continue to do it. If you don’t get the result you expected then modify it and try again. By being observant about what is working and what isn’t, you can adjust your strategy as needed so that you will continue to move closer to your goal.

  • NEVER GIVE UP!

    Have you adopted a “never give up” attitude? Have you made a decision that you will not quit no matter how long it takes to achieve your goal? If you don’t have this attitude, you might find that obstacles overwhelm you. They might be too difficult to overcome and there is a strong likelihood that you will quit before achieving what you want. However, when you adopt a “never give up” attitude, there is a conviction within you that will carry you through until you reach your goal.

“Goals. There's no telling what you can do when you get inspired by them. There's no telling what you can do when you believe in them. And there's no telling what will happen when you act upon them.”

-Jim Rohn, American entrepreneur

If you are interested in exploring the VISION of your goals and would like support from me as your coach, I would love to speak to you in a 30-minutes discovery call to see how we can work together.

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The Extra Mile

Put “going the extra mile” to work as part of one’s daily habit.
— Bruce Lee, actor and martial artist

My husband and I bought our son a Dell laptop for his Christmas present. It arrived on 28 December just as we were having dinner. My son followed the instructions provided in the laptop itself for Windows installation. Little did we know that what ensued would be so frustrating. Somehow, the Windows installation failed the first time and I spent almost 9 hours yesterday speaking to several Dell technicians over the phone, trying to get this resolved. Each technician offered some tips over the phone, sent me instructions over email and said they would call back to check. They never did and the issue remain unresolved. I was extremely disappointed with the outcome - my time was wasted; a brand-new laptop was useless and we were all tired and frustrated. Who would have thought software installation would cause the entire family so much grief?!!

I called Dell Support again this morning with the intent to arrange for a technician to drop by my home to resolve this issue or to return the laptop for a full refund. I got neither. Instead, a very patient technician, Ahmad, listened to my frustration. He explained that he could not arrange a technician for a home visit unless it is confirmed that it is a hardware defect. I didn’t want to listen as I was tired from yesterday’s experience. However, he took time to explain to me how he can help and agreed that his colleagues did not provide me with adequate information to handle the installation process by myself. He offered to stay on the line for as long as it takes until Windows installation is properly done. I was reluctant at first as I didn’t want to be tied up on the phone and going through everything I did yesterday but eventually, I agreed.

He did as he promised. He guided me throughout the entire process with precision and clarity. We were on the phone for almost 3 hours. At the end, Windows was properly installed on our laptop. I wanted to give Ahmad the commendation he deserves but he told me any positive feedback I gave would go to the technician who opened the ticket and he would not receive any recognition. I thought that was not fair so I insisted for another way to provide feedback about his excellent customer service. After much persuasion, he said I could email his manager about what he did for me today and I did just that. Ahmad’s humility, patience and professionalism made my day. Not only was the issue resolved, I felt valued and important. He took the time and effort to make me feel that I wasn’t just a ticket number but a person who needed help and he was the person to provide just the help I needed.

My experience with Ahmad and the quote from Bruce Lee above made me reflect on how we show up in our daily lives. Do we do the bare minimum as per the requirements, the job scope, the mandate, etc.? We go through the motions with lacklustre performance, thinking nobody cares. Why do I need to go the extra mile?

I don’t know with certainty why Ahmad went the extra mile for me whereas his other colleagues yesterday preferred to move on to the other customers waiting on the line and didn’t take the time to fully understand the predicament I was in. Ahmad said his other colleagues’ notes didn’t make sense and he took pains to understand what actually happened yesterday. He shyly commented that each technician has their own way of doing things when I praised him. He didn’t, at any point in time, say anything negative about his colleagues. That is admirable.

I believe Ahmad went the extra mile because he took pride in his work. Perhaps, it’s his personal work ethics to provide the best support to each customer. I know that by staying on the line that long with me, knowing that the credit will not to go to him but to another colleague, he was losing out on his performance indicators of opening new tickets under his name. Yet, never once, did I sense any resentment, impatience or reluctance in his voice. Perhaps, he didn’t see his job as just a job but an opportunity for him to serve, to help one customer at a time. Whatever his reasons were, he made my day and for that, I am truly grateful.


Do more than is required. What is the distance between someone who achieves their goals consistently and those who spend their lives and careers merely following? The extra mile.

- Gary Ryan Blair, American author


As we wrap up 2021, I hope my post encourages you to keep going the extra mile in what you do even when during those thankless, mundane days. I’m sure when Ahmad woke up this morning, he didn’t think he was going to spend 3 hours on the phone with a frustrated customer. I’m glad he did because his simple act of treating my concerns with utmost care and importance inspired this post. When you do anything with integrity, with intent and with purpose, holding yourself true to your values, you will be noticed. You will be recognised. You will make a difference. I hope you believe that as you approach your life journey in 2022!

As Dr. Wayne Dyer puts it, “It’s never crowded along the extra mile.” Not many of us walk that extra mile but when you do, you’ll find that you will have true walking companions with you and you will never be alone. That’s what makes life rich and fulfilling. I hope to be one of your true walking companions and let’s have a conversation in 2022. Book my time here.

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I have a Dream

All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them
— Walt Disney, American entrepreneur
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Both my daughters were bitten by the baking bug last year when all of us were locked down at home. Baking gave them joy. They spent time looking up recipes for cakes, biscuits and macaroons online and planned what they wanted to bake each weekend. They both decided that they want to be bakers and open their own bakery when they grow up. They also assured me that when they run their own business, they will have the flexibility of time to look after their father and I when we are old and unable to care for ourselves! We will also never be without nice smelling cakes and tasty muffins for our tea time! I love how my girls think!

One of the common themes in the topics that my clients bring into our coaching sessions is their exploration of their dreams and passions. They have been putting them off because they feel it’s not the right time in their lives to pursue them, that their dreams are frivolous - a whim and fancy. However, they can’t really shake them off and there is always this nagging feeling of “What if I followed my dreams? Where would I be now?”

What's your dream? Want to give your vision a jumpstart? Let’s start with putting some thought to these questions:

  • What is your highest priority in this phase of your life?

What is most important for you to experience, explore or embrace at this time? Until you answer this question, your life goals will be off purpose. Unaligned with your inner passion and values, you will feel imbalanced and unsatisfied with where your life is at right now.

Consider what makes you joyful. What activities did you enjoy as a child? What are your hobbies now? When your goals are aligned with what makes you joyful and which resonates with your core values, synchronicity will kick in to open up opportunities for you as your mind is more receptive to these opportunities.

I also often ask my clients to think about their higher purpose. What is the legacy that they want to leave behind? I believe we do not live in isolation and what we do now will have a ripple effect, be it positive or negative, to all those around us.

How do you want to be remembered?

  • Is this your dream, or someone else's?

    My daughters came up with the idea of wanting to be bakers when they grow up. I know it’s definitely their dream without any influence from me as I am definitely not a talented baker! My youngest daughter told me the other day that she can’t picture herself as a coach and asked if I would be disappointed if she didn’t follow in my footsteps. Of course, I assured her that it’s perfectly fine not to follow the profession of her parents and to discover for herself what she is truly called to be when she is older.

    Are your goals your own choice, or what others think you should strive for? Do you want to look back years later and wish you had followed your passion? Will you regret having "played it safe?"

    Is it selfish to go after your own dream? What joy can you give to others if you haven't given it to yourself first?

“A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams”

- John Barrymore, American actor

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  • Are you settling for less than?

Are you resigned to accepting less than your full share of love, health and success this lifetime? Have you compromised and sacrificed your dream? The reality is that anything short of living your true passions will never make you happy. I know it’s not easy to take that first step to pursue your dreams. It definitely wasn’t easy for me when I made that transition from being a lawyer to a life coach. What helped me stay the course is my belief of its purpose in this phase of my life. The focus of my purpose as a life coach is my compass.

What is your compass?

  • What will you feel like when you reach your dream?

    Personal passion fuels a vision. Dive into the thrill and exhilaration of the feeling of living your dream. There is an old Hawaiian saying, "Where your creative attention is, so flows your life." Again, I know this is not easy. We all have obligations and commitments - “grown-up stuff”. We also often want to or are pressured to live up to the expectations of others. However, when I dig deep and reflect on how I impact my clients’ lives through coaching, I feel this sense of peace and fulfilment. That conviction assures me that I’m on the right track of pursuing my dreams.

  • What steps can you take today toward your dream?

Don't defer your dream. I’m a practical planner and I often see the pitfalls and worst-case scenarios in any situation, probably a skilled honed during my legal career. When I first started planning the setting up of my coaching business 2 years ago and gearing up for its launch last April, I had my fears and doubts. I’m grateful that I had great support from my family and friends.

So, set up your supports and systems around you to take that first step in materialising your dreams. Ask for help. I believe it is a sign of strength than weakness when we ask for help as we are aware that we can’t do it alone. Be open to every opportunity that presents itself. Explore with curiosity and just take that first step.

  • Are you telling yourself, "I can't have my dream?"

Most people don't believe they can live their dream. Either their belief system has them believing they can't make a living doing what they love, or they feel they don't deserve their dream. To avoid the pain of feeling they can't have their dream, people often keep their dream so buried they can't remember they ever had a dream.

I felt exactly that. The idea of starting a second career in my late 40s is scary. I have responsibilities and obligations to my family. However, when I tried to bury my dream to be a coach, the feeling of something’s missing and something’s not quite right in my life kept coming up until I couldn’t push it aside anymore.

Looking back at my journey, I realised that I would have spared myself a lot of that inner struggle if I just stepped into taking those first few steps towards my passion. Things fell into place as I followed my dream. I believe the same can happen for you.

Do you have that “something is missing or not quite right in my life” feeling now? Let me walk with you in your journey to rediscover and rekindle your dream and to make it a reality. Reach out to me here for a complimentary 30-minutes coaching call to begin your journey.


It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.
— Paulo Coelho, Brazilian novelist

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Not Enough Time?

“You don’t build the life you want by saving time. You build the life you want, and then time saves itself. Recognizing that is what makes success possible.”
― Laura Vanderkam, American author

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Not enough time? Ask yourself, “What are my priorities?”

In my Purposeful Women of Faith Circle meeting last month, we shared openly and honestly about our struggles with time management. We all wear many hats - boss, employee, wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt, friend … the list goes on. We only have 24 hours each day. How do we find time to fulfil all our obligations, complete the tasks on our to-do lists and carve out “me time” to rest and recharge? Thinking about it even now is exhausting!

Laura Vanderkam, author of I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time, shared a different perspective of looking at time management in her 2016 Ted talk.

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Our focus is always on time itself or in most cases, the lack of it or how quickly it slips by. Laura shared in this Ted talk that our focus should not be on time but on our priorities. What is important for us that we will set aside time for it? In the example she shared, we may not have 7 hours in the week to train for a triathlon but we will carve out 7 hours the same week to fix the broken water heater which had caused flooding in our house. She said, “We cannot make more time, but time will stretch to accommodate what we choose to put into it.”

Her interviewee said, “Listen Laura, everything I do, every minute I spend, is my choice." And rather than say, "I don't have time to do x, y or z," I'd say, "I don't do x, y or z because it's not a priority." "I don't have time," often means "It's not a priority."”

As we discussed this video in our meeting, these were some of the insights shared:

  • We, as a family, got together towards the year end and made SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-Bound) goals as individuals and as a family so that we have clear focus throughout the rest of this year.

  • There is a need to be intentional about making time for the priorities in my life. Otherwise, I run the risk of letting things slide due to fatigue and distractions.

  • I want to make decisions where my “Yes” and “No” will bring me closer to my goals. I want to be intentional in my thinking and making the best use of my time.

  • When I look at my to-do list, there are items in there that will never be crossed away. I want to take a cold hard look at them and just remove them from the list. They may not happen now in this phase of my life but it doesn’t mean that they will never happen.

  • How will my usage of my time serve my higher purpose as a person? Do I make myself a priority or do I neglect to care for myself?


If you seek tranquillity, do less. Or (more accurately) do what’s essential ... and in the requisite way. Which brings a double satisfaction: to do less, better. Because most of what we say and do is not essential. If you can eliminate it, you’ll have more time, and more tranquillity. Ask yourself at every moment, ‘Is this necessary?’
— Marcus Aurelius, Roman emperor

Laura recommended creating a three-category priority list: career, relationships and self. “Making a three-category list reminds us that there should be something in all three categories. Career, we think about; relationships, self -- not so much. But anyway, just a short list, two to three items in each. Then look out over the whole of the next week, and see where you can plan them in.”

Most of us will find planning and thinking about our careers a natural thing to do given all the objectives setting exercises and performance reviews that we have done in our professional lives. However, do we really plan priorities in our career? More often than not, we are just fighting fire and hurriedly meeting deadlines and expectations imposed on us. As for relationships, do we really plan for time to be spent with our loved ones or do they get our “leftover” time? I believe the category that is often forgotten is self. The aeroplane oxygen mask analogy reminds me that we are to put on our oxygen masks first before we help others put on theirs. We will be of no use to anyone if we don’t look after ourselves. It’s instinctive that we rush to take care of others but if we are running on empty physically, mentally and emotionally, we may do more harm than good.

Depending on your planning style and phase in life, you may be thinking of a daily, weekly or monthly list or even a big picture annual plan. Do what will work best for your circumstances. Ponder on these questions as you contemplate your three-category priority list.

  • What are the “must-haves” for my three-categories of career, relationships and self?

  • Why are these priorities important to me?

  • How do I ensure that they happen?

  • What might get in the way?

If you desire support in working out your priorities to build a life that you want, reach out to me here to find out more about one-to-one coaching or group coaching if you prefer to gain support from like-minded individuals in a safe and non-judgmental space.

“He who every morning plans the transactions of that day and follows that plan carries a thread that will guide him through the labyrinth of the most busy life.”

- Victor Hugo, French poet and novelist

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Hopes and Aspirations

Your hopes, dreams and aspirations are legitimate. They are trying to take you airborne, above the clouds, above the storms, if you only let them.
— William James, American philosopher
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Reference sources for this post: 1) García, H., Miralles, F., & Cleary, H. (2017). Ikigai: The Japanese secret to a long and happy life. Penguin Books; and 2) Coaching tool developed by Elaine Houston on PositivePsychology.com

We’re at the final lap, with just two more months to go, for 2020. If you were to look back at this year a decade from now, how would you describe it? What were your memorable moments of 2020?

I think it goes without saying that this year has been unprecedented for all of us. It has been unprecedented for me in many ways. I became an International Coaching Federation credentialed coach and started my coaching business during the peak of the Covid-19 pandemic. At the same time, it has been challenging to grow my business at the pace I desired. I’ve learnt to let go and trust that God will provide my venture as I believe that He has set this purpose in my heart. I’ve been having health issues and strains in family relationships. On the flip side, my children have grown more independent and matured in their thinking. I miss my parents and have not seen them for almost a year now as they live across the border from me.

What am I looking forward to in 2021? First item on my agenda is to visit my parents as soon as border controls are lifted. The second thing is to take a long and well deserved family vacation. Thirdly, continue to improve myself as a coach to serve my clients better and create a positive impact, one person at a time!

What about you? What are you excited about in 2021?

If you are feeling lost and do not have a clear direction on what you want in your life, here are some tips on how to find and live your ikigai.

The term ikigai is a combination of the Japanese words ikiru, meaning “to live” and kai, meaning “the realization of what one hopes for” can be understood as a reason for being, or that which makes life worth living. The diagram below provides an overview of the four ingredients of ikigai.

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1) You love it

What are the things that you really enjoy doing in your life? It can be something of a personal interest or hobby. It can also be activities that you do that bring you joy.

  • What do you never get bored of?

  • What were you doing when you last lost track of time?

  • What makes you smile?

  • If you didn’t have to worry about money, what would you do?

2) The world needs it

Don’t think about addressing the Covid-19 pandemic, famine, war or other global issues. Think about what your family, friends and immediate community need. Is it a particular product or service?

  • How do you normally help others?

  • What can you teach others?

  • What problems in your society that you would like to help solve?

  • What would you like to see people do more of or differently?

3) You are paid for it

Consider your previous and current jobs. What skills do you possess to carry out your responsibilities under these jobs?

  • What types of jobs spark your interest?

  • What would you be doing if you are not in your current job?

  • Can doing what you love provide you with a good income?

4) You are great at it

Think about your skills and strengths and all the things that you are good at. It doesn’t matter if they are big or small skills or talents. Remember these attributes are what makes you uniquely you!

  • What do people often approach you for help with?

  • What skills do you list on your resume?

  • What activities or skills have you devoted over 100 hours to learn and practise?

  • What skills or talents come naturally to you?

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“The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.”

- Oprah Winfrey, American television

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How do we put all your answers together to find your ikigai?

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What you love + What you are great at = Your passion

If any of your answers to what you love also appears as answers to what you are great at, that is your passion. However, you may feel that you are not contributing enough to the world and that you may not earn a livelihood from living out your passions.

What you love + What the world needs = Your mission

When your answers to what you love come up in your responses for what the world needs, you have found your mission. Again, you may feel that your mission may not be able to provide you with a sustainable income.

What you are paid for + What the world needs = Your vocation

When there is an overlap between what you are paid for and what the world needs, this is your vocation. However, it may cause you some anxiety if this vocation requires skills that you don’t currently possess. You could also feel empty as the vocation is not something you enjoy doing.

What you are great at + What you are paid for = Your profession

You are comfortable in your profession because you have the skills to make it work and you are earning a decent income from it. However, your profession may be something you don’t love and that your world doesn’t need.

Your ikigai lies in the domain where your passion, mission, vocation and profession are all aligned in the centre of the circle. The reality is a lot of us are in good professions or vocations but we feel that we have sacrificed our passions and mission for it.

It will take more self-reflection and deliberation to discover your ikigai. I hope this post will spark your desire to find it in the coming two months as we see 2020 come to a close. If you would like support from me as your coach to work on finding your ikigai, please contact me here! I would be honoured to be your travelling partner in your journey to reclaim your ikigai!

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Shine the Light!

Have you ever set a goal and then failed to see it through to completion? This is a common occurrence for all of us. What are the possible reasons that prevent us from reaching our goals despite the best of intentions?

  • Lack of clear purpose of setting the goal in the first place

  • Lack of commitment and accountability

  • Fear and limiting beliefs

  • The goal is too vague or too big

  • The excuses we give ourselves

  • Failure to set a clear, specific and measurable plan to achieve the goal

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How can a coach support you to achieve your goals? These attributes in Competency No. 8 Facilitates Client Growth of the ICF Core Competencies shine the light on how a coach can do so:

  • The coach acknowledges and supports client autonomy in the design of goals, actions and methods of accountability.

  • The coach supports the client in identifying potential results or learning from identified action steps.

  • The coach invites the client to consider how to move forward, including resources, support and potential barriers.

The design of the goals and the steps to take towards these goals originate from the client. The coach helps the client see the goal clearly and addresses any limiting beliefs and fears holding him/her back from progressing in these goals. The coach partners with the client to plan and strategize his/her own accountability and support structures to stay focused and on track.


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams; live the life you imagined.
— Henry David Thoreau, American essayist, poet, and philosopher

What Makes a Goal a Reality?

  • Your goal must be believable to you. Do you believe that you can achieve your goal? If you do not have this belief, your goal is doomed to failure from the start.

  • You are clear on the purpose of your goal. Ask yourself, “Why do I want this goal?” Is it for you alone? Does the goal serve a wider purpose for the wellbeing of your family, friends and community? Are you pursuing this goal because it is what your parents want you to do? Be crystal clear on why you want this goal.

  • It is specific and measurable. You would have heard of the acronym SMART goals - goals that are specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time bound (has a deadline).

  • It is communicated to others. By sharing your goals with trusted individuals, you have the opportunity to clarify your goals and to seek support from these individuals.

  • You accept that there are internal and external roadblocks. It is a natural part of your growth and learning journey. These obstacles are not to be feared or avoided. You have the inner wisdom, resolve and resources to deal with them positively.

Once you understand your WHY - your reason for wanting to achieve these goals - you're 90% there! Do also consider if your goals are aligned with your core values. The more a goal aligns with your core values, the easier it will be for you to plan and work towards achieving it. This is not to say that we will not be able to achieve goals that are not aligned with our values but it is definitely harder to do and less satisfying. State your goals in the positive, e.g. “I want to be healthy at my ideal weight of 65kgs by 31 Dec 2020” rather than “I want to lose 10kgs by 31 December 2020”.

The following are some questions which you can ponder on to be clearer on your goals and to plan strategies towards achieving them:

Desired Outcome

  • What is it that you really, REALLY want?

  • What is the SPECIFIC outcome you're looking for?

  • What is the PAIN for you of NOT achieving your goal?

Alignment with your Values

  • Are the goals something YOU truly want, or are they something you think you SHOULD have or SHOULD be doing?

  • When you think about your goal, does it give you a sense of deep contentment, happiness and excitement?

  • If you could have the goal RIGHT NOW – would you take it? If not, why not?

  • How does this goal fit into your life?

Identifying Obstacles

  • What might you have to give up/stop doing to achieve this goal? Are you willing to do it?

  • If there was something important around achieving this goal, either to help you succeed or that could get in the way that you haven't mentioned yet, what would it be?

  • WHO will you have to BE to achieve this goal?

Resources

  • What resources (e.g. things, support from people, contacts, personal strengths, knowledge, skills, time, money) do you already have to help you achieve your goal?

  • What resources do you need to help you achieve your goal?

  • What will be your first small step towards getting the resources you need?

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Remember your reason for wanting to pursue these goals. It is important to be kind and gentle with yourself. If you do not succeed at first, do not give up. Every setback in life provides an opportunity for growth as a person. By setting purposeful goals, you will be inspired to live life fully and intentionally.

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The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.
— Jim Rohn, American entrepreneur

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